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jon & kate

May 18th | older posts

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i read yesterday that jon and kate might be splitting up (she did an interview with people magazine) and i can’t stop thinking about it.  i don’t actually know them–but we have seen the show here and there so i feel like i do.  i feel so sad that their marriage is in trouble–sad for them, and even more sad for the kids.  marriage isn’t easy and i’m sure it’s complicated by the success of the show.  it’s definitely a reminder to kiss my husband more, and put our marriage as top priority–not just for us  but for our kids, too.

23 Responses

  1. i too was quite sad to hear all the rumors. they’ve said for sometime that their marriage was in trouble and jon wanted out of the show. her brother and sis in law did a thing on good morning america last week and i actually shed a tear. they were pleading on tv for her to let go of the show and the book tour and focus on jon and the kids. so sad.

  2. Southern Gal says:

    Some wisdom from my husband. I loved to watch the show for the novelty of the eight kids, etc. But my husband questioned why I would watch a show where the wife constantly belittled and degraded the husband with her tone of voice and general attitude. That got me thinking. Then all this happened. She’s been touring and speaking at churches, too. I’ve not read the book or even read what it’s about. I’m not a counselor or anything of the sort. I’m not doubting her love for the kids, regiment and all. I just don’t know that the behavior displayed on the television show is something that reflected a healthy husband/wife relationship. Maybe they will ‘fight’ through this and make some desperately needed changes on the way to a healthy marriage. Yes, it’s a good reminder to love our husbands. Praying the Lord will heal their relationship.

  3. amy says:

    i read all about it too. and it’s so very heartbreaking.
    i only have three children and i used to look at them as some sort of reassurance–if they can do it with eight, surely i can do it with only three!
    i really hope they remember the promise they made to each other and get back on track.
    so sad! :(

  4. denissa says:

    I know, it is so so sad for the kids. I just saw her on the cover of People. I do have to agree with some of the previous comments about the way she would sometimes treat Jon. It is also sad to me that they can not work on their marriage in private. Hopefully they can work through it, God can work miracles!

  5. Jen says:

    My husband also questioned why I would watch that show, even though I only watched it on occasion. He could never stand it, the way she treated him, and eventually it turned me off enough to not watch it at all. I am praying for them too!

  6. jen says:

    I have maybe only seen two whole episodes of the show, but I absolutely agree that the way she treated Jon was pretty lousy. In one of the episodes I saw, Kate was relaxing in bed while Jon prepared a very elaborate asian-style meal for the family. I was shocked at how she kept complaining about how long it was taking him, the mess he was making, etc. Sheesh! Let the guy cook his dinner & keep your moth shut, ha ha! :) There is never an excuse for cheating, but let’s just say that i can’t exactly question why he would maybe seek out another woman…

  7. Missy says:

    I agree – I feel so sorry for their family & children! I hope that they can make it through this without the kids being dragged into it.

  8. beth says:

    it’s so sad… we watched almost every episode and often wondered how jon could put up with the way kate treated him.
    the interview in people magazine was very good, I thought, and honestly I can see why he wandered… if he indeed did so.

    affairs are not about the sex…so I’ve heard so many times….it’s about someone making you feel good…so if this other woman was telling him what a nice man he was, or what a great father he was or nice his shirt looks today……and kate was only telling him what he wasn’t doing right, which is what she did most of the time….well you can almost understand why he did what he is being accused of…..

    with that being said…counseling should be the first thing that happens with them and I hope, oh doI hope, they can find some middle ground and make this all work out….

  9. Linda Mills says:

    Kate treated him pretty bitchily on the show, and I don’t really blame him for rebelling. He seems like a nice guy if a little stupid. But, you reap what you sow. I wish her luck with those kids! Marriage is hard enough without adding eight little munchkins to the group.

  10. Jaime says:

    I feel the need to stick up for Kate! The producers want good tv and what seems to be “good” these days is drama. Kate takes care of 8 kids all day, every day and she is a self titled control freak. What mother wouldn’t lose their mind every once in a while and snap at their husband with 8 kiddos running free? I know that Jon does a lot too help out too however I know as a mom, I sometimes feel as though I should be getting more done and I take on too much even when my spouse asks to help. Maybe she feels the need to get things done to take some of the burden off of him since he has another job to do and in turn she gets tired, annoyed etc and takes out her frustrations on him (as I am sure we all do at times). It is not the best way, however sometimes it is easiest to vent at the ones we love the most. We know (or assume) that they will understand and bounce back. I am not saying that what she says or the way she delivers it is the best way but I know my fuse would be short too if I had that much noise, chaos, etc around! No matter how organized you are… 8 kids… very little quality time with your spouse… little to no alone time…???
    I really hope they can work things out. I wish them all the best and I agree that they should probably take a step back and communicate with one another their expectations for the future of their marriage, their family and the show and above all to remember the vows that they made to one another… twice.
    Just my 2 cents!

  11. Lisa says:

    I’ve never watched the show and so I have no idea how they treat each other. A friend recently met Jon at a benefit here in FL and said how very not nice he was. That’s all I know!

  12. Christie says:

    I just read the article today — so sad! Everyone wants to be famous, but look what it does 9 times out of 10 to relationships. In the article, she made the show sound like a chore, and that she’s only doing it to take care of her family… I’m sure they are MORE than taking care of their family and probably need to just focus on their marriage at this point! I hope they can reconcile.

  13. Tina says:

    I haven’t watched the show very many times. But never thought that she talked “down” to him many times. I hope that they can put their marriage back as their FIRST priority for the sake of the kids. No book, show or anything is as important as your family!

  14. Ev says:

    I’m a huge fan of this show. I always thought they were very real. I can’t imagine the stress and craziness 8 kids would bring. And with a camera crew on top of it all. I am very sad that they are having problems. I hope they can work it out.

  15. jen says:

    I have to disagree with Jaime’s comment. If Kate has gotten to the point that she needs to belittle her husband in order to “de-stress” than she needs to reconsider in what direction her life is going. The family makes $50-75,000 per episode (more than many of us make in a year) which should offer her more than enough disposable income to hire some help & give herself a few hours each week to relax & regain her composure.

    If the roles were reversed, & Jon was the one who was being crude & degrading, people would be outraged. But b/c she’s a woman her behavior is deemed acceptable & the ratings go up…Her kids shouldn’t be witnessing her attitude.

  16. I have to agree with Jen. My daughter and my sister got me “hooked” on the show, and I’ve watched faithfully for 2 seasons. Kate’s demeanor has certainly changed-and not for the better. I also feel sorry for the children, especially after they were such a big part of the renewing of the vows.

  17. Melanie says:

    I know that I am coming in late to the conversation but I have watched the show from the beginning. I am happy for them that they got the chance to do the show and make their life easier with the income. Things started to change when she wrote the first book. Jon quit his job and they would speak at churches on the weekend. Now, she is off signing books and he is at home with the kids. He was not happy last season. You could see it. She has always talked to him like he was one of her kids. I always thought that it was bad but then I thought about how we all would behave if we had the stress of 8 kids. Well, now that they have the money and she is happy in front of the camera and writing books, Jon is the lost one. She better get home and tend to her family and try to get back to what they had. She said in People magazine that she doesn’t even know him any more and she could do it on her own. It doesn’t sound good. I hope they can work it out.

  18. Heather says:

    I think it is dangerous to speculate on a person and speak as if you know them by some reality show. Especially if you don’t even really watch it. I have no idea if any of these allegations are true and it’s none of my business but I sure would hate it if someone blamed me for my husbands infidelity or said because of my faults that I somehow deserved it or had it coming. Or that it was even understandable. IF this happened, it is a total betrayal and there is no excuse that stands up in my eyes. It seems our society is so comfortable picking apart others and justifying bad behavior , as for me and mine. We will pray for them and carry a sadness for them both because no doubt IF this did happen they are both in tremendous pain. No one deserves this and there is no excuse. Perhaps people need to back out of their lives and let them do what is required for them all to move on. Whatever that may be. I think both parents have redeeming qualities and faults. Just like all of us.

  19. Tricia says:

    I’ve been watching the show for years, and I’m sad for the family. But I really think alot is how the producers and editors make them. They shoot for 4-5 days and from all the footage they “create the character” of kate and Jon. Hundreds of hours are put in 22 mintues. I would have to say we all have our good and bad moments in a given week… no one to tape them. Now if after a week a smart editor wanted to make you a Bad guy- or good guy I bet they could easily make an extreme version of you. I’m not saying they either of them is perfect but he stress of the show and cameras, lack of privacy must have taken a toll on them, and TLC is a major company who know how to get veiwers, sponsors and MONEY!
    As with any family, I wish for the kids they try and make it work, but a happy, healthy seperate family, is better then a bitter, mad, cheating together family!

  20. laura says:

    I agree w/ Jen & Lynn. I haven’t actually watched the show, but there was an interview w/ them last night that I saw. The poor guy couldn’t finish a sentence w/out her interrupting him.
    You said it right Jen, if it was a guy behaving the way she does….people would be outraged.

    Sounds to me like she has become too caught up in the fame, and needs to focus more on what really matters…..her family. The show won’t last forever.

  21. Christy says:

    Heather, if people don’t wish to be judged, then they shouldn’t agree to having cameras in their home, catching their every move on tape. It’s plain & simple. I have a feeling that Jon & Kate both got a taste for all that money VERY quickly, & now the idea of going without it sounds pretty miserable. So they continue on with the show even though it clearly is affecting their family. Sorry, but I don’t feel bad for either of them, especially not Kate. It’s like all these celebs who piss & moan about having to sign autographs, be photographed, etc. while they’re out shopping or whatnot. Um, if I made millions of dollars per movie, you better believe I wouldn’t have the nerve to EVER complain about my fans, ha ha!

  22. Sherry says:

    Wow I don’t think this is the place to dispute who is right or wrong here-only the Lord knows and He will be the one to “judge.”

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